If you’re newly engaged, this is for you!
Getting engaged is one of the most exciting and memorable times of your life. It can also be a bit overwhelming with the amount of friends and family that will reach out with congratulatory messages and of course, advice. Some of it is really helpful, some of it, not so much.
We have heard it all, so we put together a short list of the most common things engaged couples wish they knew NOT to do when they got engaged.
1. Don’t Tell Your Instagram Followers Before Grandma and Grandpa
Do your best to tell the ones closest to you, especially family, before you post it the world. The last thing you want to happen is your grandma hear that you’re engaged from the neighbor who saw it on social media. We promise, the Instagram selfie can wait 24 hours! Tell your Grams before the Gram.
2. Don't Feel Pressure to Commit to Anything
Again, you will (most likely) be receiving A LOT of advice. Your Mom wants you to invite her gym friends. Your future father-in-law wants to keep the wedding very conservative. Oh, and your best friend knows this amazing photographer that you have to use. Try not to decide on a single thing in the first few weeks, or months, of being engaged. As your caught up in the excitement of an engagement, you also may find yourself getting hyped from the well wishes and inviting people along without thinking. Air on the side of caution here and don’t put yourself in a tough spot
3. Don't Choose Your Wedding Party Right Away
Same goes for the bridal party when it comes to not over-committing. Try to keep things vague and avoid making any commitments early on when it comes to your bridesmaids or groomsmen. You still have a lot of things to decide on first that may dictate this, such as the kind of wedding you end up having or your budget. Also, depending on the length of your engagement, friendships can change and evolve. Hold off for a little while before you ask anyone and make sure you are 100%.
4. Don't Wear a Ring That Doesn't Fit You
We all know that you’re excited to rock your rock, but don’t bypass the fact if it doesn’t fit perfectly. If your engagement ring is too big, it’s especially important that you get it resized immediately before you start wearing it. The last thing you want to happen is that you lose it or damage it. Being that it only takes a day or two to have a ring resized, there’s no excuse to not make sure it stays on your finger forever!
5. Don't Start to Book or Buy a Dress Immediately
It’s normal to start looking around at venues (like us at White Horse Ranch), vendors, and bridal boutiques upon getting engaged, but do not make any commitments, purchases or bookings until you are crystal clear on the details of your special day. You need to do your research and work around specific dates that are available for everyone involved. Not to mention you’ll also want to sit down with your future spouse to come up with a potential budget. If you purchase a dress too early in your engagement, you run the risk of growing tire of it, or see other gowns you would have preferred over the course of your wedding planning.
6. Don't Stress Out
There is a lot of planning, coordinating, and communicating during the wedding planning process. We understand it can be overwhelming. I mean, you’ve only been dreaming of this day for your entire life. No big deal. But in all seriousness, try not to let it stress you out or cause you sleepless nights worrying about it. After all is said and done, it’s just a big celebration with the most special people in your lives. You have the ability to make it as elaborate, or as simple, as you want to. You can always elope, too and throw a party. Regardless, enjoy being engaged and cherish this happy time with your other half!